About Me: Hi! My name is Kelly Ann. I enjoy long walks on the beach and picnics in the park. My favorite food is chocolate chip cookies and I like rewatching old episodes of “Grey's Anatomy.” I’m looking for someone who is kind and loves to laugh. I’m a Christian. I HATE DRAMA!!!
Do you feel you actually know anything about me after reading that? Of course not. It’s boring and unspecific.
Writing about yourself is HARD. And writing an “about me” section on your dating profile feels weird, like you are writing an advertisement for yourself because, well, you are. Anyone with any modesty would find it difficult to write something that’s basically saying “look how great I am.” Never fear, my dear readers, I’m here to help! And we’re taking it back, way back to 5th-grade essay writing to brush up on the tried and true process that got us all the way through school. That’s right, even though you told your teacher, “I'll never use this in the real world,” here we are.
Now, grab yourself a piece of scratch paper (or open another window on your screen) and let's get started.
Grab your paper and write down single words and phrases that you would like to expand on. Don’t try to write or structure sentences yet. Just focus on who you are and what you are looking for.
-Start with words that describe who you are. This can be a little tricky because most of us wrap a large portion of who we are into what we do, i.e. our job and hobbies. Those two things are important information to give as well, but try to focus on who you are outside of those things. What’s your personality type? What do you value? Where does your moral compass point?
For me, those words would be, Christian, never meets a stranger, always moving, kind hearted, loyal, creative and a little sassy.
-Next, write down words that describe what you do or enjoy. This can be anything. If you have an odd hobby, include it. If you are a homebody, write that down. Whatever brings you joy! This is also where you should include your occupation.
My words would be, writer, decorator, baking chocolate chip cookies, my best friends, my flowers, Sundays
-The last word category is what you are looking for. Now, this one is very specific to YOU so let your mind wander a bit. What is super important to you? What are your must haves? What kind of relationship are you looking for?
I’m looking for, long term relationship, christian, smart, dependable, good listener, likes to have my brand of fun.
One thing to keep in mind, it’s always best to avoid words that evoke negative emotions in most people. Words like “drama” or any overly sexual language will likely turn people off.
Once you have all your ideas written down, you’re ready for the next step…
Ok, the first step in drafting is to give yourself grace. Even the most experienced writers will stare at a blank screen just trying to get started. My best advice is just to start writing. It doesn’t have to be “right” at this stage, you can correct mistakes and make it sound good later on. Just start taking your words from step one and making sentences with them.
I’m a Christian woman looking for a Christian man.
I have two jobs that aren’t remotely related, writer and decorator.
I never meet a stranger and talk a lot so I need a man that is a good listener.
I have the best group of friends that I can depend on.
I am loyal and value those who I can depend on.
Sundays are my favorite, after church I like to bake or work in my flower garden
I make really good chocolate chip cookies
I don’t like to sit still
I can have fun doing just about anything.
This is where you start formulating a coherent and cohesive paragraph. Expand your sentences and add some descriptive words. If you have a strong sense of humor, let it shine! If you are a person of few words, that’s ok; just make what you do write COUNT.
Also, at this stage, the online thesaurus is your friend. Switch out words that you find yourself repeating.
My relationship with Jesus is my highest priority. I’m looking for an equally yoked man who will help me continue to grow spiritually. Sitting still is just not part of my DNA, so I have two jobs to keep me busy being creative. I split my time between part-time writer and part-time interior decorator and I love it! My favorite day of the week is Sunday. After church, I spend time unwinding in my garden or baking my chocolate chip cookies to give to all my people. Dependability is pretty high on my values list. I have great friends and family and I’m loyal (ALMOST) to a fault. I can usually have fun doing just about anything and I need someone who has that same energy. Finding a man who’s a good listener is pretty important as well. I’m a bit of a chatty cathy and I’d like to find someone who can keep up!
Now that you have the paragraph written, all that’s left is to make sure it’s your best work! I recommend getting someone else to read it and make suggestions where needed. Anytime I write something, I always walk away for a day and then do the editing. It’s easier to catch errors and spruce things up with a fresh set of eyes. Just take your time and do your best!
My relationship with Jesus is my highest priority. I’m looking for a man that is equally yoked who will help me continue to grow spiritually. Sitting still is just not part of my DNA, so I have two jobs to keep me busy and being creative. I split my time between part-time writer, part-time interior decorator and I love it! My favorite day of the week is Sunday. After church, I spend time unwinding in my garden or baking my famous chocolate chip cookies. Sometimes I share them and sometimes I keep them all to myself. Dependability is pretty high on my values list. I have great friends and family and I’m loyal to a fault, almost. I can usually have fun doing just about anything and I need someone who has that same energy! Finding a man who’s a good listener is pretty important, as well. I’m a bit of a chatty Cathy and I’d like to find someone who can keep up!
Annnnd we’re done! That wasn’t so bad, was it? A well written “about me” doesn’t have to be beautiful and eloquently worded, just well thought out and error free.
Now, get out there and make me and your 5th-grade English teacher proud!
Until next time…
Love y’all and good luck,